Our good friend Kavitha invited us to her niece's wedding, our first Hindu wedding, which we attended last weekend. Knowing that literally thousands of people are invited to weddings here, we didn't think much of it. So we were really surprised when we arrived and Kavitha ushered us up onto the stage, to the front row with her family. Our protests had no effect, so there we sat, next to the grandmas as the bride came out and kissed their feet. I thought, "We don't even know the bride!" Hindu weddings are very different from anything we are used to. It seemed a little chaotic with drums beating, people walking in circles around the couple, people crowding around to throw flowers on them or just to get a good picture. There was lots of talking, hooting, and clapping throughout. I don't think there was any exchanging of vows or any communication between the bride and groom at all. The priest performed a pooja before the couple, with them taking part a few times. I can't really explain any of it. It ended with the bride and groom exchanging flower garlands, then walking around the ceremonial platform several times. The bride was beautiful. After the wedding, a traditional Kerala vegetarian meal was served on banana leaves in a large mess hall. We were warned to eat fast because men walk around ready to serve the next dish very quickly. The last 2 or 3 dishes are poured right into your hand and you drink it up. "Good for digestion".
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Our beautiful girls all dressed up for the wedding. |
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Not nearly as dressed up as other girls, as you can see. This little princess was really interested in Evie's blond hair. She kept hugging and kissing her and touching her hair. Evie just stood there and took it straight-faced. |
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The beautiful bride before the wedding. |
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The pooja platform where the bride, groom, and priest would sit. |
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This and the next two photos are of the pooja. |
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As is the case in most weddings here, this is an arranged marriage. The bride and groom hardly know each other. "Love will come later," Kavitha says. |
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Kavitha's oldest son entertaining Evelyn during the ceremony. |